Imagination is a beautiful thing. But how to check that you are not living only in your vision? That you didn’t read too many “believe in yourself” books?
Too much faith in yourself can move you to the Disneyland.
Tendency to think too much is quite harmful to us as a people. High self esteem mixed with too much free time can end tragically, like moving your mind to the Disneyland. But not the theme park. Instead to absolutely imaginary world, where you enjoy your greatness and imagine what you could achieve in the future. This Disneyland affects your life, especially when you move your imaginary “you” to the real world. Such move is belief that you are high having only 5 feet (don’t worry, I still like you, even if you are under 5 feet). For example trying to play basketball will be much harder. Telling your friends about your enormous height also will be quite tough. You know; you can believe in anything you want, even in spaghetti monster, but if only you see it, what’s the point?
Point one: imaginary money.
I (and other people also) immediately see if you have money or not. When you drive Bentley, you have money for ~ 95%. When you have Rolex, I can also believe you. But if you are walking every day in the same t-shirt, buying cheapest breakfast and telling everyone around about your wealth – I doubt it. However, even if people around, are wrong about your wealth (you have ton of gold in the pavement, but still enjoy same T-shirt everyday), then certainly your bank account and wallet can say much about it. If you believe that you can buy everything, but your main account is like 13.03$, I think that something can be wrong.
If only you believe in your money, and no one around, what is the point of talking about it? Remember that showing off is to show something to other people, not yourself.
Point two: fake happiness.
Money is usually first topic to fake. Second one is happiness. Fake happiness. If a player doesn’t have a girl for three months, and says that he is happy – is that true? If a countryside lover is living in New York, and says he is happy – is that true? If a pacifist is fighting in the center of the battlefield – is he happy? Why then you would smile if you don’t enjoy your life? To hide something from other people?
I can understand omitting few things which went wrong in your life, but smiling when you are dying inside is wrong. Even if you are waiting for better times, it is still wasting your time. I’ve heard many many times that “money, times or people” change would make people happy. I call bullshit. Why? In the middle of summer 2017 I’ve met cleaning lady who was:
- working for minimum American wage;
- in Florida’s humid climate (very hot and wet);
- from sunrise to sunset;
Do you know what she told me? That she is very happy, because she has a work, amazing family and sun above. Money wasn’t a topic for her. Stinking thrash also. And a guy in a suit, making four times the minimum wage, has courage to say that his life sucks, because he doesn’t have enough money? Maybe move to Florida man.
Point three: imaginary achievements which only you know.
Third most popular thing to fake are things you’ve never done. Usually, those who speak the most about their achievements, are those who did nothing. Just imagine Bill Gates listing his improvements to the global IT. Probably he wouldn’t have enough time to do it. What then it shows about those who can?
If no one can confirm someone’s achievement, then it is either a elephant made from a bee, or something that never happened. Everyone would like to be great. So, everyone is trying somehow. Few will end up with Napoleons fame. Others will praise their success of doing laundry only to be known. Not everyone can be great.
But surely everyone can be true. Or at least try.